Getting Happy With a Little Positive Psychology

Positive Psychology, optimist

By Lori Spensieri

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What is Positive Psychology?

Getting Happy With a Little Positive Psychology


I have an INFJ personality. This means that I am kind, highly sensitive and apparently I have an old soul. I am not completely sure of what this implies but it sounds good. According to Isabel Briggs Myers there are 4 qualities at exist as a range from one extreme to the other. The four qualities that combine to create your personality are:

1) Interaction with the world (Introvert vs. Extrovert)

2) Absorption of Information (Sensors vs. Intuitive)

3) Decision Making (Thinkers vs. Feelers)

4) Organization (Judgers vs. Perceivers)

Try the quiz here.

What type of personality do you have? What does this say about you?

 Complete the questions to see what personality you have. After you complete the quiz, comment on your results. Do you agree? Is this an oversimplification? Why complete a quiz like this anyway? The benefits are threefold. The first reason is that the results can confirm personal characteristics that you already knew you had, providing a sense of validation. The second reason is that it will help give you insight into the benefits of having such a personality type. Lastly, finding the results will help you to realize that some of your “weaknesses” are simply part of the package and they may actually work in your favor to some degree.


I bring up Positive Psychology at this point as it is a relatively new idea that fits perfectly with the idea of happiness being part of one’s personality or overall temperament.

Positive psychology has the therapist or patient asking, “What’s Good?” Instead of the usual “What’s Wrong?”

Positive Psychology aims to have the patient see their skills, positive traits and experiences as a benefit to them. As part of treatment, he or she will set goals, practice wellness and methods of building up one’s sense of self confidence and self-esteem. Areas of focus include:


  • Independence
  • Autonomy
  • Decision making
  • Goal setting
  • Positive Self-concept
  • Positive Self-talk
  • Relationship building
  • Social Skills
  • Moving forward
  • How experiences have shaped you

Focus away from:

  • The past
  • Mistakes
  • Repressed ideas or memories
  •  Pesimism
  • grudges
  • past negative experiences
Always see the good. The sun is alwasy shining from behind the clouds.


Choose to see the good in any sitation or circumstance. Some common phrases which may sound cliché, can actually be helpful to hold in your repertoire. When something doesn’t work out have a ‘go-to’ phrase ready for use. If you go to a job interview and you are not successful in securing the position, tell yourself that a better job is in the works. If your girlfriend or boyfriend breaks up for you, tell yourself that there is someone more suitable on their way. Try these phrases:

  • It is what it is!
  • You get what you get and you don’t get upset!
  • Maybe next time.
  • It wasn’t meant to be.
  • I am destined for greater things.
  • For every door that closes, two more open.
  • This/he/she wasn’t a good fit for me.
  • God has other plans for me.
  • It’s all good.
  • I am only human.
  • I am doing my best.

In positive psychology there are many facets and aspects to consider. If you would like to continue reading about this, you can click here for an insightful article by Psychology Today.

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Methods in the Book

Many of the methods in the book Thirty Days to Happy, are based on methods based in Positive Psychology.

For example;

Day 2 Positive Twist.  This method requires the reader to be mindful during the day for circumstances and events that are not desirable. When this happens, he or she is required to record the incident and then attempt to find the positive side of it. Every circumstance has a positive side. Some are harder to find, but it is there.

Click here for a full description of the Positive Twist.

Day 8 Getting There With Gratitude.  Being grateful for the people and things in your life is very important. Gratefulness is a sign of appreciation for all of the things that are working for you. Aside from this, if you can find a way to be grateful for the things that do not work out, you will grow as a person.

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If you would like to delve more into the concept of happiness and what it is exactly, click here.

What makes you happy?
What makes you happy? Have you ever put thought into it?

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What Is Happiness Anyway?

What is happiness to you? What is happines?

By Lori Spensieri

What is Happiness? Why is it important to find yours? Both of these are important questions to consider if you are going to have a fulfilling life.

I want you to try something right now. Whatever you are doing, stop and try to visualize the last time you found yourself completely and unquestionably happy. Think of the last time that you lost yourself in the moment.

What were you doing? Where were you? Who were you with?

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What brings a smile to your face?

After considering this, ask yourself if you knew, before the moment of happiness that this combination of events or conditions would indeed actually leave you feeling this blissful.

Perhaps feeling happy is not actually a perfect combination of predetermined conditions. Each person has a unique set of criteria for the creation of feelings of happiness. This is where the soul-searching becomes very important. You must know yourself quite well in order to deliberately bring about greater levels of happiness. This is the key.

Thirty Days to Happy, the book

Thirty Days to Happy is designed to help the reader to see that there is always sun shining behind the clouds.

According to our book, Thirty Days to Happy, Cara and I were able to determine six major categories of actions that one can take in order to bring about more happiness and contentment. In the same way, we were also able to determine that knowing oneself well, and surrounding oneself with the things that one likes or loves, also makes one feel happier. Of all of the possible conditions that one can create for oneself the three most important are: who you find yourself with, where you are and what you are doing.  

See the feature article on this website “How to be Happy”. This will give you some great tips and tricks about finding greater levels of happiness.

The Big Three!

Based on some very compelling primary research that Cara and I have been completing, it is evident that a person requires the presence of 2 of the 3 conditions, in order to feel happy. Three W’s; who, where and what. When you are feeling happy, ask yourself three questions:

  1. Who am I with?
  2. Where am I?
  3. What am I doing?

You will find that, give that you feel happy, you can probably satisfy 2 of the 3 of the three W’s.

When considering a moment of happiness one can ask:

Who was I with?

Where was i?

What was I doing?

What was I eating?

What was I wearing?

Why did I feel happy?

How much money did I have?

What time of day was it?

** Continue with questions.

The only three questions that truly matter are the first three. Who you are with, what you are doing and where you are. 

What is happiness – an article in Psychology Today

Check out our sister site: EH! Be Positive. This positive outlet will give your your daily dose of positive that is so important for your overall happiness.

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Have a wonderful day.

How to Be Happier Today

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How to be Happier – The Spensieri Method

By Lori and Cara Spensier
Be Happy. It is a choise. How to be happy. How to be happier
Just decide that today you will begin to be happy. You do not need a reason.

I am a busy person. I can not complain about my business as I mainly do this to myself. Perhaps my business is a method of distraction. Of course, I have elements in my life that I can not avoid (and would not want to avoid). I have a full-time job as a Secondary Teacher. I have a family that I am actively involved with. My two boys, aged 5 and 8, both play hockey. One of them is in ‘Rep’ hockey. Combined, they have hockey eight times each week. Yes, I realize that this is impossible.

Jacob and Matthew play hockey 3-4 days per week. They love it. That is why I do it!

Besides all of this, I love to try other endeavors. I like to write poetry, post blogs, I run a series of Facebook Pages and multiple Groups. I love to interact with people, in any format. I do not expect to get rich quick, although I do imagine that one day I will be able to work less away-from-home and I want to work more from my home. My children come first. Being here at home, with them is my ideal picture of happiness. 

This is key. To know what your idea of happiness looks like, is the most important thing to which you can dedicate time.

My sister Cara and I wrote a book entitled, Thirty Days to a Happy.

This book is a program or plan that causes the reader to try new methods for increased happiness every day, for 30 days. The methods are all performance based. Each method asks the reader to do an action, try something new or create something. At the end of the day, the reader writes down, or voice records, a journal entry, called a Daily Download. This daily download will allow the happiness-seeker to better asses each method for effectiveness.

We are all different. The commonality between all of us is that we all have a heart, that is capable of so much love. Love is the force that transcends all differences. Click here for our blog article all about love on our sister page

The first 5 days of the “Thirty Days to happy” are as follows:

Every person on Earth is different. Each individual is unique. From the outside, some people may look the same. Some people score identical IQ scores or similar Personality styles. This is all relevant but the truth is, each of the 7.6 billion people on Earth is each unique. It seems impossible. Click here ( to see an article that looks at all of the genetic combination possibilities that exist. It truly is fascinating.

With that being said, each of us can find happiness, although in a different way. This may require some experimenting. This may require some trial and error. Never give up on finding the people and circumstances that will bring you feelings of happiness and joy. You deserve it and you can have it.

Day 1 – What is Happiness to you? – Click here for more information and printables

Day 2 – Perceive the Positive Twist

Day 3 – Put the “Me” in Meditate

Day 4 – Affirm Your Affirmations

Day 5 – Fashion Your Fantasy Future

We hope that you enjoyed the first five days of Thirty Days to Happy. The completed book will be published and available soon. We are excited to spread happiness and positivity.

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How to Be Happier; Day 5

Vision Board. How to Create one. Quote by abraham lincoln.

Taken from the book “Thirty Days to Happy,” written by Lori Spensieri and Cara Spensieri of Eh! Be Positive Summary of Day 5: Fashion your Fantasy Future. A vision board is a visual display of the life that one desire for oneself. A description of what a vision board is and the purpose of it more

How to Be Happier – Day 4

affirmations can change your life. Positive thinking. Reprogram your mnd to be positive

Based on the book “30 Days to Happy” by Lori Spensieri and Cara Spensieri Summary of Day 4: Affirm your Affirmations. Affirmations are an old practice of repeating positive statements silently or aloud in order to create a better level of belief and manifestation of the statements. Day 4 is about creating one’s own affirmations more

How to Become Happier.

What is happiness to you? What is happines?

Based on the book “30 Days to Happy” by Lori Spensieri and Cara Spensieri Summary of Day 1: What is your Happiness? Many people are quick to express that they are unhappy although, when asked what would help them to stop being unhappy and to become happier, this person often lacks a substantial response. They more