The Summer of Positive Psychology

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By Lori Spensieri

Positive Psychology is more than simply focusing on the positive, although this is a great place to start.

The summer is a time of freedom, fun and frolicking, at least if you are a 6-year-old kid.  As an adult there is an entirely different way to see things. The summer can be a time of looking for child-care, heat-related illness for the very young and the very old. Adults may worry about having money for a vacation during the summer months. The summer months are also riddled with weddings, BBQ’s, birthday parties, and so many other social outings. This can stressful for some, especially Moi!

My Summer…as a teacher

I am a full time high school teacher, therefor I do get about 8 weeks away from planning and marking. I do look forward to the summer months. By the time June comes around everyone is dying for a break. Here we are. I am dedicating this summer to the mastering of practices associated with positive psychology.

According to Martin Seligman, the founder of Positive Psychology, the definition is:

scientific study of optimal human functioning that aims to discover and promote the factors that allow individuals and communities to thrive’.

The 6 areas of psychology, according to Seligman include:

  • Positive Emotion
  • Engagement
  • Relationship
  • Meaning
  • Achievement
  • Vitality
According to Seligman and new age Positive Psychology, the 6 areas of positive psychology combine to create a mentality that lends itself more readily to happiness.

***Click Here for an article by Psychology Today, that delves a little deeper into the concept of positive psychology.

Missing My Boys

It is ‘week two’ of being home with my little ones and I already find myself at a loss for how to keep these kids engaged and happy. I realized that I was becoming anxious about how to entertain these kids, every day for 8 weeks. I opted out of the camp things. It is an option and a great idea although I do have my reasons for not signing them up. I could write an entire blog about the benefits of summer camp but I miss my kids. That is the bottom line. All through the school year I miss them. They are at a school, in a classroom, being taught by an adult while I do the same thing with other peoples kids. I want to spend time with my boys.

Click here for an article from our sister site www.ehbepositive.com entitled ’10 Reasons it is great to have your kids home with you for the summer’. I will be reading this to remind myself as well, LOL.

Use Positive Psychology to Discover More Happiness

I want to show you how to use Positive Psychology in order to find more happiness in your life. After you consider a few factors, ask yourself a few questions and do a little soul searching you will be able to see how happiness comes from inside you.

Traditional clinical psychology focuses on “what’s wrong” and “the past”. Positive psychology focuses more productively on the now, and the future, as well as “What’s good”.

Why Aren’t you Happy?

See this article previously posted here on 30 Days to Happy. It discussing some underlying reasons that you may be experiencing negative emotions.

Start Here…

Ask yourself each of the questions below. For each, If you can answer ‘YES’, give yourself one point. See the score below.

First things first,

Ask yourself these questions to see if you are already using positive psychology in your life to create a happier existence.

Positive Emotion

  1. Are you able to recognize your emotions when they occur?
  2. Are you able to label the triggers of your emotions, both positive and negative?
  3. Do you generally see the good side of a situation?
  4. Do you generally see the good in each person in your life?
  5. Are you able to recognize your own skills, abilities and achievements?

Engagement

  1. Do you have a strong sense of will-power?
  2. Are you able to make good choices for your life?
  3. Do you find yourself in a state of FLOW?
  4. Do you practice Mindfulness and Meditation?
  5. Can you stay in the moment and enjoy everyday experiences?

Relationship

  1. Do you surround yourself with people who raise you up and support you?
  2. Do you feel that you have something to offer others?
  3. Do you have meaningful relationships?
  4. Are you happy with your current relationship status?
  5. Are you able to easily forgive others?

Meaning

  1. Do you have a well-development sense of spirituality?
  2. Do you have a clear idea of your beliefs?
  3. Are you aware of your purpose?
  4. Do any activities give you a sense of awe?
  5. Are you able to move on from adversity or trauma?

Achievement

  1. Do you see yourself as someone with perseverance?
  2. Do you have a sense of intrinsic motivation? (self-motivation)
  3. Do you have goals that you are motivated to achieve?
  4. Are you able to visualize your goals and desires, with great detail?
  5. Do you have well-established healthy habits and rituals?

And Vitality

  1. Do you have stress management skills?
  2. Do you practice good nutrition?
  3. Do you get regular physical activity?
  4. Do you have a well-established sleep routine and good sleep habits?
  5. Do you pay attention to energy management within your body?

SCORING:

25 – 30 Points  You have an excellent set of practices in place that work to create and maintain happiness in your life. Put some thought into the actions that you are taking, that are working for you. Be mindful of this and continue.

14-24 Points You have a good set of practices in place based on your score. Put some thought into what may be working for you, and perhaps what new practices you could add to your repertoire.

9-14 Points You have some positive practices in place although you will find more happiness if you add a few more positive habits. Try adding 1 practice this week and then another next week and so on.

4-8 Points You May have a couple of positive practices under your belt although you really need to make some positive changes quickly. You may be experiencing anxiety, stress, depression or some combination of these. New positive habits will make a big difference.

3 Points or less You are not focused on the positive. You can be happier. You can make changes. You have to take control over your own destiny and decide to be happier today. Chose one area to improve on today and get started.

Highest and Lowest Score Areas

  • if you look at the area that you scored the highest – this will give you insite into your natural happiness habits. Maintain these practices.
  • If you look at the area that you scored the lowest – a change in this area first will have the most impact on your mood and health.

Some Positive Habits to Add to Your Routine

Here is a graphic that gives you some examples of habits that you can add to your routine in order to practice positive psychology more effectively.

Printable Resources

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We will focus more on each area of Positive Psychology but for now I hope that you have found this information interesting and valuable.

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Have a wonderful happy day!

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Getting Happy With a Little Positive Psychology

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By Lori Spensieri

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What is Positive Psychology?

Getting Happy With a Little Positive Psychology

HAPPINESS AS A TEMPERMENT

I have an INFJ personality. This means that I am kind, highly sensitive and apparently I have an old soul. I am not completely sure of what this implies but it sounds good. According to Isabel Briggs Myers there are 4 qualities at exist as a range from one extreme to the other. The four qualities that combine to create your personality are:

1) Interaction with the world (Introvert vs. Extrovert)

2) Absorption of Information (Sensors vs. Intuitive)

3) Decision Making (Thinkers vs. Feelers)

4) Organization (Judgers vs. Perceivers)

Try the quiz here.

What type of personality do you have? What does this say about you?

 Complete the questions to see what personality you have. After you complete the quiz, comment on your results. Do you agree? Is this an oversimplification? Why complete a quiz like this anyway? The benefits are threefold. The first reason is that the results can confirm personal characteristics that you already knew you had, providing a sense of validation. The second reason is that it will help give you insight into the benefits of having such a personality type. Lastly, finding the results will help you to realize that some of your “weaknesses” are simply part of the package and they may actually work in your favor to some degree.

HAPPINESS AS A TEMPERMENT

I bring up Positive Psychology at this point as it is a relatively new idea that fits perfectly with the idea of happiness being part of one’s personality or overall temperament.

Positive psychology has the therapist or patient asking, “What’s Good?” Instead of the usual “What’s Wrong?”

Positive Psychology aims to have the patient see their skills, positive traits and experiences as a benefit to them. As part of treatment, he or she will set goals, practice wellness and methods of building up one’s sense of self confidence and self-esteem. Areas of focus include:

Focus:

  • Independence
  • Autonomy
  • Decision making
  • Goal setting
  • Positive Self-concept
  • Positive Self-talk
  • Relationship building
  • Social Skills
  • Moving forward
  • How experiences have shaped you

Focus away from:

  • The past
  • Mistakes
  • Repressed ideas or memories
  •  Pesimism
  • grudges
  • past negative experiences
Always see the good. The sun is alwasy shining from behind the clouds.

CHOOSE TO SEE THE GOOD

Choose to see the good in any sitation or circumstance. Some common phrases which may sound cliché, can actually be helpful to hold in your repertoire. When something doesn’t work out have a ‘go-to’ phrase ready for use. If you go to a job interview and you are not successful in securing the position, tell yourself that a better job is in the works. If your girlfriend or boyfriend breaks up for you, tell yourself that there is someone more suitable on their way. Try these phrases:

  • It is what it is!
  • You get what you get and you don’t get upset!
  • Maybe next time.
  • It wasn’t meant to be.
  • I am destined for greater things.
  • For every door that closes, two more open.
  • This/he/she wasn’t a good fit for me.
  • God has other plans for me.
  • It’s all good.
  • I am only human.
  • I am doing my best.

In positive psychology there are many facets and aspects to consider. If you would like to continue reading about this, you can click here for an insightful article by Psychology Today.

Chick here.

Methods in the Book

Many of the methods in the book Thirty Days to Happy, are based on methods based in Positive Psychology.

For example;

Day 2 Positive Twist.  This method requires the reader to be mindful during the day for circumstances and events that are not desirable. When this happens, he or she is required to record the incident and then attempt to find the positive side of it. Every circumstance has a positive side. Some are harder to find, but it is there.

Click here for a full description of the Positive Twist.

Day 8 Getting There With Gratitude.  Being grateful for the people and things in your life is very important. Gratefulness is a sign of appreciation for all of the things that are working for you. Aside from this, if you can find a way to be grateful for the things that do not work out, you will grow as a person.

Click here for a full description of Getting there with Gratitude. This article is on our sister site. This may contain some affiliate links.

If you would like to delve more into the concept of happiness and what it is exactly, click here.

What makes you happy?
What makes you happy? Have you ever put thought into it?

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What Is Happiness Anyway?

What is happiness to you? What is happines?

By Lori Spensieri

What is Happiness? Why is it important to find yours? Both of these are important questions to consider if you are going to have a fulfilling life.

I want you to try something right now. Whatever you are doing, stop and try to visualize the last time you found yourself completely and unquestionably happy. Think of the last time that you lost yourself in the moment.

What were you doing? Where were you? Who were you with?

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What brings a smile to your face?

After considering this, ask yourself if you knew, before the moment of happiness that this combination of events or conditions would indeed actually leave you feeling this blissful.

Perhaps feeling happy is not actually a perfect combination of predetermined conditions. Each person has a unique set of criteria for the creation of feelings of happiness. This is where the soul-searching becomes very important. You must know yourself quite well in order to deliberately bring about greater levels of happiness. This is the key.

Thirty Days to Happy, the book

Thirty Days to Happy is designed to help the reader to see that there is always sun shining behind the clouds.

According to our book, Thirty Days to Happy, Cara and I were able to determine six major categories of actions that one can take in order to bring about more happiness and contentment. In the same way, we were also able to determine that knowing oneself well, and surrounding oneself with the things that one likes or loves, also makes one feel happier. Of all of the possible conditions that one can create for oneself the three most important are: who you find yourself with, where you are and what you are doing.  

See the feature article on this website “How to be Happy”. This will give you some great tips and tricks about finding greater levels of happiness.

The Big Three!

Based on some very compelling primary research that Cara and I have been completing, it is evident that a person requires the presence of 2 of the 3 conditions, in order to feel happy. Three W’s; who, where and what. When you are feeling happy, ask yourself three questions:

  1. Who am I with?
  2. Where am I?
  3. What am I doing?

You will find that, give that you feel happy, you can probably satisfy 2 of the 3 of the three W’s.

When considering a moment of happiness one can ask:

Who was I with?

Where was i?

What was I doing?

What was I eating?

What was I wearing?

Why did I feel happy?

How much money did I have?

What time of day was it?

** Continue with questions.

The only three questions that truly matter are the first three. Who you are with, what you are doing and where you are. 

What is happiness – an article in Psychology Today

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Have a wonderful day.

How to Be Happier Today

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How to be Happier – The Spensieri Method

By Lori and Cara Spensier
Be Happy. It is a choise. How to be happy. How to be happier
Just decide that today you will begin to be happy. You do not need a reason.

I am a busy person. I can not complain about my business (busy-ness) as I mainly do this to myself. Perhaps my business is a method of distraction. Of course, I have elements in my life that I can not avoid (and would not want to avoid). I have a full-time job as a Secondary Teacher. I have a family that I am actively involved with. My two boys, aged 6 and 9, both play hockey. They both play on ‘Rep’ hockey teams. This is not to brag, just to demonstrate the level of commitment required. Combined, they have hockey eight times each week. Yes, I realize that this is impossible.

I love so try new things.

Jacob and Matthew play hockey 3-4 days per week. They love it. That is why I do it!

Besides all of this, I love to try other endeavors. I like to write poetry, post blogs, I run a series of Facebook Pages and multiple Groups. I love to interact with people, in any format. I do not expect to get rich quick, although I do imagine that one day I will be able to work less away-from-home and I want to work more from my home. My children come first. Being here at home, with them is my ideal picture of happiness. 

The Key to Happiness.

This is key. To know what you want. To know what your idea of happiness looks like, is the most important thing to which you can dedicate time.

Let me as you; What makes you happy?

My sister Cara and I wrote a book entitled, Thirty Days to a Happier You. It will be published in early 2020. We are so proud and so happy.

Smile. There is scientific evidence that backs up a claim that smiling can increase positive feelings.

This book is a program that causes the reader to try new methods for increased happiness every day, for 30 days. The methods are all performance based. Each method asks the reader to do an action, try something new or create something.

At the end of the day, the reader writes down, or voice records, a journal entry, called a “Daily Download”. This daily download will allow the happiness-seeker to better asses each method for effectiveness.

We are all different. The commonality between all of us is that we all have a heart, that is capable of so much love. Love is the force that transcends all differences. Click here for our blog article all about love on our sister page www.ehbepositve.com

The first 5 days of the “Thirty Days to happy” are as follows:

Every person on Earth is different. Each individual is unique. From the outside, some people may look the same. Some people score identical IQ scores or similar Personality styles. This is all relevant but the truth is, each of the 7.6 billion people on Earth is each unique. It seems impossible.  Click here to see an article that looks at all of the genetic combination possibilities that exist. It truly is fascinating.

What makes you happy?
What makes you happy? Have you ever put thought into it?

With that being said, each of us can find happiness, although in a different way. This may require some experimenting. This may require some trial and error. Never give up on finding the people and circumstances that will bring you feelings of happiness and joy. You deserve it and you can have it.

Day 1 – What is Happiness to you? – Click here for more information and printables

Day 2 – Perceive the Positive Twist

Day 3 –  Put the “Me” in Meditate

Day 4 – Affirm Your Affirmations

Day 5 – Fashion Your Fantasy Future

We hope that you enjoyed the first five days of Thirty Days to Happy. The completed book will be published and available soon. We are excited to spread happiness and positivity.

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How to Be Happier; Day 5

Vision Board. How to Create one. Quote by abraham lincoln.

Taken from the book “Thirty Days to Happy,” written by Lori Spensieri and Cara Spensieri of Eh! Be Positive Summary of Day 5: Fashion your Fantasy Future. A vision board is a visual display of the life that one desire for oneself. A description of what a vision board is and the purpose of it are explained in the introduction to this chapter. The main task for day 5 is for the reader to create his or her own vision . . .

How to Be Happier – Day 4

affirmations can change your life. Positive thinking. Reprogram your mnd to be positive

Based on the book “30 Days to Happy” by Lori Spensieri and Cara Spensieri Summary of Day 4: Affirm your Affirmations. Affirmations are an old practice of repeating positive statements silently or aloud in order to create a better level of belief and manifestation of the statements. Day 4 is about creating one’s own affirmations to use in one’s own life. The reader may or may not believe in the effectiveness of such a practice, although he or she is . . .

How to Become Happier; Day 2

Based on the book “30 Days to Happy” by Lori Spensieri and Cara Spensieri Summary of Day 2: Perceive the Positive Twist. “30 Days to Happy” is a book that will make people happier. This book will have the reader completing a series of performance-based tasks that will work to make him or her feel happier. Day 1 of this program requires the reader to define their own individual meaning for the idea of happiness. This is very important. One . . .

How to Become Happier.

What is happiness to you? What is happines?

Based on the book “30 Days to Happy” by Lori Spensieri and Cara Spensieri Summary of Day 1: What is your Happiness? Many people are quick to express that they are unhappy although, when asked what would help them to stop being unhappy and to become happier, this person often lacks a substantial response. They do not know what, in life, actually brings happiness to them. After putting some real thought into it, it becomes clearer. Once the individual knows . . .

Day 3: Put the Me in Meditate!

Day 3! Here we go… The world can be an overwhelming place. Living in a busy city can overload the senses. The sounds, sights and even smells can make you feel like you are going crazy. Every now and then removing yourself from the sensory stimulation can have a great benefit to your overall health. Your physical and emotional health depend on this. How do you do this?  You can try meditation. If you have not tried it you should. . . .